Review: ‘Lose You to Love Me’ by Selena Gomez

Selena Gomez’s song, “Lose You to Love Me”, was released October 23rd, 2019. This is the first single since her second studio album Revival, which was released back in October 9th, 2016.

Since 2016, Selena has released the song “Back to You“, a single for the second season of Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why. She’s also been a feature for other artists such as Benny Blanco’s “I Can’t Get Enough” (feat. J Balvin, Tainy, and Selena Gomez), DJ Snake’s “Taki Taki” (feat. Cardi B., Ozuna, and Selena Gomez), and Julia Michael’s “Anxiety” (feat. Selena Gomez).

Unlike previous songs over the years, this is Selena’s first single that is leading to her next album, which as of this date has yet to be named or have a release date.

The Lyrics:

You promised the world and I fell for it
I put you first and you adored it
Set fires to my forest
And you let it burn
Sang off-key in my chorus
‘Cause it wasn’t yours
I saw the signs and I ignored it
Rose-colored glasses all distorted
Set fire to my purpose
And I let it burn
You got off on the hurtin’
When it wasn’t yours, yeah

We’d always go into it blindly
I needed to lose you to find me
This dance, it was killing me softly
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me

I gave my all and they all know it
Then you tore me down and now it’s showing
In two months, you replaced us
Like it was easy
Made me think I deserved it
In the thick of healing, yeah

We’d always go into it blindly
I needed to lose you to find me
This dance, it was killing me softly
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me

You promised the world and I fell for it
I put you first and you adored it
Set fires to my forest
And you let it burn
Sang off-key in my chorus

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah

And now the chapter is closed and done
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
And now it’s goodbye, it’s goodbye for us

*lyrics provided by Genuis.com*

Analysis:

The song is a confessional piece about having to let someone go in order to achieve self-love.

Instrumentally, the song’s melancholy melody begins with piano notes that are deep and distinctive, but as the song progresses it becomes more crescendo with piano keys that are higher and softer. The song also has moments of “choir-layers” of Selena’s vocals to add depth and tone. The song ends with simple piano notes, a similar concept to the beginning, but are high pitch and portray a soft closure. This simple instrumental technique and confessional style of singing is similar to Julia Michaels’ works, who also helped Selena write the piece.

The song opens up with Selena confessing and stating that the person she loved (allegedly long time, on and off again ex-boyfriend, Justin Bieber) making promises and using her and her falling for them or ignoring the signs.

The imagery she uses to convey this toxic state was a forest and fire. She sang, “Set fires to my forest, And you let it burn,” which represents her state of being being intoxicated by the person, who was causing problems and “setting fires” in her life and just allowing them to happen. Another example of imagery is rose colored glasses. The rose colored glasses represents a nostalgic, romanticized perspective of life. A fantasy and saturated view to trick the mind into not seeing reality.

The song’s pre-chorus and chorus goes into how she had to ultimately let this person go in order to achieve self-love.

We’d always go into it blindly
I needed to lose you to find me
This dance, it was killing me softly
I needed to hate you to love me, yeah

To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, love, yeah
To love, yeah
I needed to lose you to love me

In the second half of the song, she confesses that she did her best in the relationship but felt discarded and replaced, as if the relationship hadn’t meant that much to the other person as it did to her. One lyric in particular has lead people to speculate the song is about Selena’s relationship with Justin Bieber, singing “In two months, you replaced us, Like it was easy,” which refers to Justin getting back together with Hailey Baldwin, two months after breaking up with Selena after an over eight year, on and off again relationship. The relationship, often ship-named Jelena, had (for the last time) ended May 2018.

The song ends with the lyrics “And now the chapter is closed and done…And now it’s goodbye, it’s goodbye for us,” which is Selena’s declaration that that chapter of her life, her relationship with this person, was officially done. The concluding lyrics not only concludes the song, but is the ultimate good-bye to that relationship.

And now the chapter is closed and done…And now it’s goodbye, it’s goodbye for us

The music video was a simple, black and white, a piece which conveyed the melancholy tone. The intimate video showed Selena singing the song in a chair and would add multiple layers of Selena’s face throughout to illustrate that choir-layers of Selena’s voice.

Overall, the song was Selena’s revival (album-pun intended) back into music.

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